Having Asperger’s has proven itself to be a challenge in my life. That might be the biggest understatement I have ever made, come to think of it. What happens when I talk though? When I usually stay quiet and do not voice my own opinion?
The thing that originally happened is that I lost my self confidence. I would talk even less than normal and the few people I talked to became worried.
They would inquire with me and try to see what was wrong, when in reality, there was nothing wrong. Except my confidence that is. Different post on that soon!
What happens now though? I talk about nothing. When I say nothing I don’t mean it as a negative. It is meant as a coping skill. Talking about nothing is very relaxing for me because I don’t need my filter running non stop. I can say what I want without fear of repercussions. Usually, this takes its form in Star Wars talk.
I like to think I know a lot about Star Wars, and it seamlessly transitions as a coping skill itself.Talking about Star Wars feels natural and I have done some pretty cool things talking about Star Wars. I would have probably failed my speech class at HACC if the speeches were not about Star Wars. The happiness I feel is genuine and enduring.
The sad thing about this though is that people sometimes get annoyed with me when all I talk about is Star Wars. I have been told that all I talk about is nothing and it has no impact. There is an impact however. That impact is relaxing me.
The way autism plays into this is that I have a few coping skills, but they are really good, well-developed skills. I am obsessed with Star Wars so I will talk about it.
It is that way with most autistic people. We have tunnel vision on one very specific thing and we like to talk about it. A great example would be someone with autism obsessed with trains. That would be all they talk about because they are comfortable talking about it.
The take away here is that autism and obsession go hand in hand in my opinion. So, if you know someone with autism, let them relax with you by talking! It really helps us.